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Saturday, 28 March 2015

BULLY ME BITCHES

I am 48 and I suffer from a rare genetic disorder that brings with it a fair dose of depression and anxiety. It may be about to get worse because I'm waiting to find out if I've passed the condition on to my daughter.

Some days are better than others. On a bad day I struggle to get out of bed and do basic tasks and I feel miserable that my life has been reduced to a struggle. But...I have trained myself to push through and on most occasions I succeed. I refuse to be beaten by my condition.

Yesterday was one of those days I was pushing through. I had to fill in some forms and decided to go into town, sit in the sunshine at a nice cafe and eat lunch, while filling out the forms. It was a positive thing to do; even though I was getting frustrated with myself because I have a hand tremor and filling out forms is not my forte, even on a good day.

Forms complete and sun shining I decided to walk for a while. Years of steroids, hormone treatments and inactivity from being unwell have not helped my weight. So when I can walk, I do.

It was a pleasant walk. In a country town there is always someone you stop to talk to. It was fun. I was getting some light exercise and my mood was lifting.

Then very suddenly it ended.

I passed two women, older than myself, who took a look at me walking past and said " you've got to be joking" and started laughing. I was gob smacked.

Was it my clothing? (black t- shirt and harem pants in a black geometric). Don't think so.
Was it my shoes? ( black with a bit of bling; doubt it).
Was it my hair? ( just coloured and cut and very normal).

It had to be the sight of an overweight woman walking.
This was blatant bullying and I'm totally and utterly pissed off by it.

Now, I don't give two hoots that they think the sight of a fat woman exercising is hilarious. That's their shit, not mine. What infuriates me is that this is the sort of behaviour you sometimes get from teenage girls. And I can see so clearly it's learned behaviour from older people who should know better.

Bully me bitches if you have to. But when you go and " tell" the story, I hope there are no young kids around who are being given the subtle "go ahead" to bully and take the piss out of someone their age. That " someone" may not have the resilience I've worked so hard to achieve. Consequences of bullying can be disastrous. Youth suicide is at an unacceptable rate in Australia and world wide. The only acceptable rate is 0%

It's time some adults started to set an example and grow up.

18 comments:

  1. Great blog. I am glad you do not let their ignorance get you down. sending good wishes your way x

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    1. You are a lovely person Ali. You always have something nice to say. Thankyou xx

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  2. That's interesting.
    I too have experienced how quickly a mood-change can be triggered by something like this.

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    1. The mood change was from the realisation that this was bullying and the absolute horror it came from those of my own sex and older than me. I'm a high school teacher. Kids are often blamed for bullying. Im thinking its learned behaviour.

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  3. Bullying is absolutely a learned behaviour. Hoping there were no kids around and that if these women have kids themselves, that they turn out better than them. Glad you have the resilience to not let their comments get to you. Thanks for sharing and stay strong xx

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    1. Somewhere along the line we need to take responsibility for the bullying epidemic in this country. Children only do what a role model has done or does and sometimes what they think they can get away with. Old women should know better than to belittle someone.

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  4. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Bullying is so common now, and it's so obvious that children learn it from their elders. That's terribly sad :( Hope you can walk again soon; maybe with a fun walking partner!

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    1. It will take more than a couple of morons to stop me xxx

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  5. I am so sorry you experienced that bullying, but I am glad you are able to talk about it, to shout out how unacceptable behavior this older women portrayed. It is a disgrace and like you I only hope they don't pass this bullying attitude onto younger people. Thank you for sharing on Monday Madness Link Party :)

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  6. WOW! That is horrible! You are right it is a learned behavior indeed! I have had similar experiences when in my wheelchair or in one of the electric scooters inside the store where I have heard the same words! i have also gained weight because of my disease and inability to walk or exercise for that matter. Makes you wonder what else they teach their children huh?

    So happy you were able to join in on ALL the fun this week at the #BigTopBlogParty! Wishing you a fabulous week and a very Happy Easter! ;-)

    Much love,

    Lysa xx
    Welcome to My Circus

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    1. Thanks Lysa. Talk to you soon xxx

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  7. You are right. Zero tolerance!!! How embarrassed THEY should be. So sad that we live in a place where apparent full grown adults behave in that manner. Makes me sad to know that example is being set so prevalently in our world.

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    1. Thankyou for your comment Casey. You are quite right in what you say.

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  8. I just wanted to let you know that this article was a feature in Monday Madness link party this week :) I thought it was an important topice to share :)

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    1. Can you send me the link please Sharon?

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  9. Suzi I do not know why but my comments never show? Powerful story and as for bulling I just cannot understand what is wrong with adults that do it, were they never bought up with respect!

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  10. Great post. It all starts at home. When adults see nothing wrong with their behavior, they pass it on to their children. Truth be told, when you have to make others feel bad in order to feel good you have a serious problem. March on, and thanks for sharing your story.

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